Love after marriage

Does Love blossom after marriage…

Let me talk about the woman, who rules my heart…and who would that be…she is none other than my lovely lady love.

It took me sometime to adjust and realize that, there is this woman in my life with whom I am going to live forever. This fact sunk in more deeply after our betrothal. Perhaps it is due to the fact that as part of the function, acceptance of both parties to marriage along with date of marriage in front of a decent gathering, the fact that this lady would herein after body, mind and soul would belong to me…and so would I. is it slavery? A kind of binding…without even understanding what this person is all about.

Well, I think the answer to that lies in our upbringing:

I belong to the typical middle class Brahmin sect where the virtues of arranged marriage, living with the family, respecting the elders and taking their consent for most decisions even after marriage is still followed. And even Vidya belongs to such a family with a more rigorous and orthodox background. You are given to believe that once it is decided that you have the other to go along with for the rest of your life, you need to adjust, adapt, consider and respect others opinions, wants, likes and dislikes and go hand in hand. Every day, every moment would not be always perfect, there would be days of anguish, anger, remorse and frustration, yet these are passing moments. These are meant for reflection, retrospection and to realize that some time you need to give into the wants and likes of the other person. There is a joy in it. You learn to respect others feelings. You make the other person feel wanted, desired and most of all loved beyond all. That’s the greatest emotion one could ever feel deep within with the passage of time.

Love grows with the passage of time. It grows evermore when she is not beside me. As they say, you know the value of something only when you are farther away from it. When it is near you, you take it for granted and tend to ignore it.

Is this love a physical attraction when you see your spouse young, pretty and supple…would this wane with the passage of time…nay…I am sure it is much more than that. We both have seen and lived with our parents who still live and love each other so much. Perhaps, they may not express in as much words as I do in a public sphere, yet their actions speak volumes of their love for their better halves. It’s just incomparable. I could end up writing another biography of our parents.

Such living examples, teach you the virtues of a good marital life and how you can attain perfect bliss in today’s maniacal, frenzy, frenetic world that chases every material aspect that a man or woman aspires for.

Truly speaking, value for human emotions, relationships, friendships increased in bounds seeing and being with Vidya. She has attained mastery in that. College degrees would never teach you these things, yet these are most important to maintain harmony at home. Otherwise, your house would never be a home…it would be hell to live.

I could scarcely express my love for her…how could I…I was and am never a good orator…but yes, I am a good writer…or at least I claim myself to be. And here I get an opportunity to express my undying love for the most beautiful wife in the entire universe.

I just love to play this Joshua Kadison song for her…You will always be ever more beautiful in my eyes…everlasting my dear…and my love for you grows by the day and would linger forever and ever…

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